Essays from the studio.
What 1,247 readers taught us, what we got wrong, and what the next chapter of pleasure literacy looks like. New entry roughly every two weeks.
The Coital Alignment Technique.
One position. Two body adjustments. The single highest-yield technique for clitoral orgasm during intercourse — taught in 1988 and almost completely forgotten since.
How to stop being in your head during sex.
The mental loop that yanks you out at the worst moment, why willpower makes it worse, and what to do instead.
Sexual performance anxiety in men.
The vicious circle, the four myths that keep men in it, and a stack of small moves that actually break it.
How to talk to your girlfriend about sex.
The conversation most couples skip until something breaks. When to have it, where, and exactly how to start.
The dead-bedroom reset.
A 30-day framework for couples whose sex life quietly stopped. Not a willpower lecture. A staged sequence.
How long should foreplay last?
The number isn't random — it maps to a measured arousal cycle. What 20 minutes actually does, and why most men cut it short.
How to tell if she really came.
The honest signs (and the misleading ones), why she might be faking, and the better question to ask in the first place.
Spontaneous vs responsive desire.
"She's just not in the mood" usually isn't what you think. Two desire styles, two playbooks. Most men only know one.
Why doesn't my girlfriend orgasm with me?
The most-asked question men type into Google at 11pm. A direct, non-judgmental answer for the man searching for what's actually going on.
The orgasm gap.
95% of men finish, only 65% of women do. Why the gap exists, how big it really is, and what to do about it from the inside of an actual relationship.